"I'd challenge people who want clarity to use my forum (or Gameplay) for answers."

When, specifically, does it become okay for other ragers to sit in the room to "watch" you fight someone who wants to use aoe spells/skills either because it gets around spellbane (until the inevitable thirst) or because, as a bard, they have no offensive abilities that are not aoe?

Is it okay for a village applicant to run to Thyrm to hide from a mage, then, if they come, to bash them as Thyrm takes the front? Seems to me the exact same as ganging from a character's perspective.

If an uncaballed non mage is at the outer fighting a mage who is presumably reraiding, or if battle controls no items, and neither is capable of soloing for the head, is it still considered a raid situation, where ganging down the non mage along with the help of a mage is justified?

edit to add:

When my buddy is "watching" me fight random dude, mage or not, when is it okay for him to attack? Right after I flee? Right after I die? Do I need to look like I am not coming back?