I decided to either play two chars at once, or play with my buddy, because I can't get a group the hard way like everyone else does.

Because I can't get a group the hard way, it must be that everyone is an a-hole, not that I'm approaching them in the wrong way or have been unlucky enough to meet a couple of a-holes.

The fact that sometimes there is no one to group with entitles me to get my friend to help me out (or play two chars to do it).

Have I got it about right?

Seriously, if you persevere in trying to get interaction with others, you will get some really good stuff. A fine example is Brumbalin, a dwarf that practiced no skills besides staff. He got groups purely as a result of his rp and people being nice.