You've hit on something that is a big pet peeve of mine, regarding the relative measure of age and the general passage of time in CF. (Also consider an "hour" or a "day" in CF is so short as to be impossible to legitimately roleplay around.)

For the foreseeable future, I don't see anyone addressing this to my (or your) satisfaction, so my best advice is to just ignore it and skirt around it while roleplaying as best you can. I wish I could offer something better, but it is what it is.

Regarding the abuse of emote or socials, trust me, players who behave that way aren't impressing anyone. I do think when used judiciously, such socials do have a place in the game for out-of-pk use. A slighted lover might slap an unfaithful beau, a reviled enemy might spit in response to an insult, etc.

If misuse of socials and emote is particularly egregious, feel free to shoot a note to immortal about the offending player. (Emphasis on 'particularly egregious'. If someone slapped you and you think it's lame, we don't need to hear about it.)