You still seemed to have gotten my point. I do like your analogy though. It makes me think of the "Jew Hunter" Nazi Colonel from that movie Inglorious Basterds. The man did a lot of things through fear, but, does that make him any less charismatic? Hell no, the actor was nominated for an oscar because he played such a devilishly charismatic character.

I think you all are being too narrow in your definitions of charisma. Dictionary.com defines charisma as this:

1. Theology . a divinely conferred gift or power.

2. a spiritual power or personal quality that gives an individual influence or authority over large numbers of people.

3. the special virtue of an office, function, position, etc., that confers or is thought to confer on the person holding it an unusual ability for leadership, worthiness of veneration, or the like.

Never once in that definition does it mention TRUST. It does, however, mention AUTHORITY AND INFLUENCE. I think drow can fit into definition #2 very well. It may not be through your typical means, but, they still can accomplish this.