You would rather get halfway to hero, and be smacked down, than have those details worked out early? The imm usually gives you a warning about certain actions early, so you know what to avoid in the future. With an automatic empowerment system, I honestly think it would have to be a "priest beware" kind of thing. As in, don't pledge yourself to things you don't understand.

I have had over a dozen empowerment characters, and never had the degree of problems you describe. This is one of those situations where you need to choose an imm with some care. I know all the evils love Scarabeus, but sometimes he can be hard to reach. So using him as a for instance, if you have a low frustration tolerance, don't pick an imm that has unpredictable log in times. I think in all my empowerment characters only one had the problem you describe, and the imm faded away shortly after.

I don't really think the current system is flawed, but I do think we could have some kind of system to know how often imms log in. It doesn't need to show the day or anything, but how long and how many days of the week perhaps. That's my only real suggestion. Last, I would also say that if you come here with an agry/flippant/ranty sound, it's the least likely way to get something changed.