I hope you won't take this as me ragging on you (I'm the person you talked to about graveyards, for what it's worth) but I think this was just too difficult of a character for you to play at this stage of your CF career.

Necromancer is hard (generally poor defense, lots of built in enemies, relatively low value to most groups), dark-elf is harder (high XP penalty, lower HP, common vuln in exchange for some advantages you probably weren't prepared to get the mileage out of), and adding Scion app to the list is harder still (reduces your list of potential allies further, makes the list of your built-in enemies longer, and typically is one of the hardest cabals to get into especially if you're weak in PK).

I think if you gave the same thing another run in about another year of playing you'd do a lot better with it but I almost can't pick a more difficult character to play without intentionally trying to cripple yourself.