Vladamir | Fri 28-Dec-12 02:14 AM |
Member since 04th Mar 2003
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#112676, "RE: Don't mistake not arguing for getting along. "
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Sometimes people think or feel things that we just don't understand, man. No matter how hard we try, how smart we may be, how empathetic we may consider ourselves and how willing we are to listen. Sometimes a feeling about someone or a situation just can't be vocalized.
Frankly, right now I still have exactly NO idea why my wife left me when/how she did. I was under the impression that everything was great. I was happier than I could ever imagine being. And in the space of a week she and my daughter were gone, and I was left sitting here going "What the ####?". To say I treated both my wife and daughter like gold would be an understatement. Hell, I make my living by noticing things and understanding people and their motivations. I still just have no clue.
Maybe this is the same thing. Maybe her reasons, or her feelings, and the reasons for those feelings just won't make sense to you. It's because we are all different, and once in a while two people will just completely not be able to understand the reasons each feels a certain way. There's no wrong in this, no shame, no blame. Sometimes people just don't get it. It sounds to me like this may be the case with you. I'm not going to blame it on your wife, or your marriage, or Iunna, or any sort of immortal conspiracy. I think maybe you just really don't get her reasons, and that's okay.
It sucks that she felt the need to leave, and it sucks that you don't understand it all, but that doesn't in any way shape or form make it in any way your fault. I recently upset Iunna, completely unintentionally because of something I said on Dio's. I never meant to, and I hope she realizes this. She wrote me an email basically saying "Hey man, what gives?" and I was absolutely mortified that I had upset her to the degree that she felt the need to email me. I apologized (and will apologize again here in case she reads this because I still feel like #### about it, since I always loved Iunna) but sometimes #### just can't be worked out.
For whatever it may be worth coming from me, I don't think it was YOUR fault.
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(DELETED) [BATTLE] Iunna Ashfoot the Blazing Hellcat of...
[View all] , Death_Angel, Mon 24-Dec-12 11:20 AM
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Amaranthe,
29-Dec-12 11:56 PM, #95
Dang,
Valkenar,
27-Dec-12 05:03 PM, #60
RE: (DELETED) [BATTLE] Iunna Ashfoot the Blazing Hellca...,
Lyristeon,
27-Dec-12 04:04 PM, #58
Good post. Appreciate it.,
TMNS,
27-Dec-12 04:32 PM, #59
FWIW,
Lyristeon,
27-Dec-12 05:48 PM, #62
Are you coming back?,
-flso,
27-Dec-12 06:15 PM, #63
Outlander certainly doesn't need love,
Blkdrgn,
28-Dec-12 01:25 AM, #76
Don't be like that.,
Splntrd,
29-Dec-12 05:07 PM, #90
Tell me about it,
robdarken_,
29-Dec-12 09:18 PM, #92
We all need love, BlkDrgn. nt,
Dallevian,
29-Dec-12 09:54 PM, #93
RE: FWIW,
Bajula,
27-Dec-12 06:23 PM, #64
oh, if it isnt my dead beat dad who left me high and dr...,
Balta,
27-Dec-12 06:55 PM, #65
You suck..come back..nough said. nt,
Minyar,
27-Dec-12 05:41 PM, #61
RE: (DELETED) [BATTLE] Iunna Ashfoot the Blazing Hellca...,
Nreykre,
26-Dec-12 02:15 PM, #28
Take care, Iunna...,
Amaranthe,
26-Dec-12 11:52 AM, #27
Irreconcilable differences.,
Iunna,
26-Dec-12 10:24 AM, #26
RE: Irreconcilable differences.,
Daevryn,
26-Dec-12 02:22 PM, #29
Love is blind?,
Minyar,
26-Dec-12 02:32 PM, #30
RE: Love is blind?,
Daevryn,
26-Dec-12 07:31 PM, #41
Que?,
Iunna,
26-Dec-12 08:43 PM, #46
RE: Que?,
Daevryn,
26-Dec-12 08:47 PM, #47
Don't mistake not arguing for getting along. ,
Vladamir,
27-Dec-12 07:54 PM, #66
RE: Don't mistake not arguing for getting along. ,
Daevryn,
27-Dec-12 09:39 PM, #71
RE: Don't mistake not arguing for getting along. ,
Vladamir,
28-Dec-12 02:14 AM #79
Good post. Incidentally, it kinda summarizes why I deci...,
Murphy,
28-Dec-12 03:13 AM, #80
I'm sorry, but I don't like this response.,
Minyar,
28-Dec-12 03:01 PM, #83
RE: I'm sorry, but I don't like this response.,
Daevryn,
28-Dec-12 06:49 PM, #86
I'm an example,
Valkenar,
29-Dec-12 11:03 PM, #94
Disagree on the pbf comment thing,
robdarken_,
29-Dec-12 09:17 PM, #91
Great post/analogy nt,
Tolnum,
28-Dec-12 12:30 AM, #74
RE: Irreconcilable differences.,
Knac,
26-Dec-12 03:18 PM, #31
I would agree with this.,
Zephon,
26-Dec-12 04:02 PM, #32
RE: Irreconcilable differences.,
Isildur,
26-Dec-12 10:09 PM, #51
However, nobody likes a negative Nancy (Raybaer) who ON...,
Vladamir,
27-Dec-12 08:01 PM, #67
Not true man. I'm a fan of yours (glad to hear you're....,
TMNS,
27-Dec-12 08:33 PM, #70
Of course you don't see it dude, that's your wife.,
TMNS,
26-Dec-12 03:54 PM, #33
RE: Of course you don't see it dude, that's your wife.,
Isildur,
26-Dec-12 10:15 PM, #52
This,
Demos,
28-Dec-12 01:22 AM, #75
That's because you are inadvertently the problem.,
Tolnum,
26-Dec-12 06:11 PM, #34
That is pretty ####ty advice,
Cenatar_,
26-Dec-12 07:08 PM, #37
4-5 players?,
Tolnum,
26-Dec-12 07:14 PM, #38
RE: 4-5 players?,
Cenatar_,
26-Dec-12 07:46 PM, #43
Cyradia, Iunna,
Tolnum,
26-Dec-12 08:14 PM, #45
There are more than two Imms that people whine about. n...,
DurNominator,
27-Dec-12 03:37 AM, #53
Not to any great degree, and not usually beyond a singl...,
Vladamir,
27-Dec-12 08:23 PM, #68
But it is the same people who repeatedly whine and if y...,
Cenatar_,
28-Dec-12 11:11 AM, #82
Championing the other imms...,
Vladamir,
28-Dec-12 09:57 PM, #88
RE: Championing the other imms...,
Daevryn,
29-Dec-12 12:14 AM, #89
RE: That's because you are inadvertently the problem.,
Daevryn,
26-Dec-12 07:43 PM, #42
Hey whatever works for you,
Tolnum,
26-Dec-12 08:13 PM, #44
RE: Hey whatever works for you,
Daevryn,
26-Dec-12 08:49 PM, #48
luckily a very, very small camp. nt,
Dallevian,
26-Dec-12 08:56 PM, #49
lol you say a very small camp but the funny thing is, t...,
Blkdrgn,
27-Dec-12 03:53 PM, #57
Maybe we have different opinions on size,
Tolnum,
28-Dec-12 12:26 AM, #73
> 10% of the posts in this thread are yours. n/t,
Malakhi,
28-Dec-12 01:28 AM, #77
7 posts,
Tolnum,
28-Dec-12 02:04 AM, #78
Reasonably make me happy? Respond here.,
Tolnum,
28-Dec-12 12:22 AM, #72
RE: Reasonably make me happy? Respond here.,
Daevryn,
28-Dec-12 10:44 AM, #81
Taking that a step further...,
Moridin,
28-Dec-12 03:26 PM, #84
Lesson learned. - Derail inprogress,
Drogdenbaryd (Anonymous),
28-Dec-12 04:38 PM, #85
Where the heck have you been?,
Gaspar,
28-Dec-12 08:00 PM, #87
You?,
xrus,
27-Dec-12 05:01 AM, #55
balance of power has shifted. not for the better.,
Dallevian,
26-Dec-12 07:15 PM, #39
Take a breather, come back,
Tolnum,
26-Dec-12 06:12 PM, #35
And why the hell did you write it then?,
Shapa,
26-Dec-12 06:33 PM, #36
Why not?,
Gurn Blanston,
26-Dec-12 07:23 PM, #40
At least because of the prehistory of the deletion?,
Shapa,
27-Dec-12 03:40 AM, #54
RE: Irreconcilable differences.,
Borkahd,
26-Dec-12 09:38 PM, #50
I don't really understand,
CD,
27-Dec-12 09:00 AM, #56
Left forever or to play?,
xrus,
26-Dec-12 03:27 AM, #25
RE: (DELETED) [BATTLE] Iunna Ashfoot the Blazing Hellca...,
Treebeard,
25-Dec-12 02:05 PM, #24
Lol,
The-me,
25-Dec-12 08:35 AM, #23
This makes me so sad...,
Amberion,
25-Dec-12 01:27 AM, #22
RE: (DELETED) [BATTLE] Iunna Ashfoot the Blazing Hellca...,
Splntrd,
25-Dec-12 01:03 AM, #21
super bigtime sadface,
Whiysdan,
25-Dec-12 12:46 AM, #20
RE: (DELETED) [BATTLE] Iunna Ashfoot the Blazing Hellca...,
Vynmylak,
25-Dec-12 12:05 AM, #19
What this mud needs, is some more Vynny Mac. nt,
Vladamir,
27-Dec-12 08:28 PM, #69
Yep.,
Bayres123,
24-Dec-12 10:53 PM, #17
A real bummer.,
Homard,
24-Dec-12 10:47 PM, #16
Really Really sorry to see this.,
hadashdakon,
24-Dec-12 09:56 PM, #14
RE: (DELETED) [BATTLE] Iunna Ashfoot the Blazing Hellca...,
Graatch,
24-Dec-12 09:31 PM, #13
RE: (DELETED) [BATTLE] Iunna Ashfoot the Blazing Hellca...,
Isildur,
24-Dec-12 10:28 PM, #15
Lady Ashfoot,
Zephon,
24-Dec-12 06:02 PM, #12
RE: (DELETED) [BATTLE] Iunna Ashfoot the Blazing Hellca...,
Rade,
24-Dec-12 05:19 PM, #11
Sup, babe.,
Quesnel (Anonymous),
24-Dec-12 04:01 PM, #9
Please don't go? This game won't be the same without y...,
Bukbuk,
24-Dec-12 02:54 PM, #7
This is a huge loss for CF,
Vhloughvang (Anonymous),
24-Dec-12 12:51 PM, #6
Awwww,
Hopelessdwarf,
24-Dec-12 12:47 PM, #5
:(,
Daevryn,
24-Dec-12 12:33 PM, #4
She already told me she's in for Decempire.,
TMNS,
24-Dec-12 03:02 PM, #8
RE: She already told me she's in for Decempire.,
Isildur,
24-Dec-12 04:42 PM, #10
RE: (DELETED) [BATTLE] Iunna Ashfoot the Blazing Hellca...,
HammerSong,
24-Dec-12 12:17 PM, #3
Love the Post - The Song makes me LOL at Thror - ,
Warren,
24-Dec-12 11:17 PM, #18
You will be missed.,
Kalageadon,
24-Dec-12 11:53 AM, #2
Noooooooooo!!! ,
Demos,
24-Dec-12 11:42 AM, #1
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