Join Fortress or Herald or Nexus. To a lesser extent Outlander or Tribunal - go neutral for sure if you join either. Find an IC way to let people know that you're learning magic. Maybe your role is that you come from a long line of warriors and you're breaking tradition over your knee but you're bumbling it in a bad way cause you have nothing to lean on. RP that with other mages that are allies and I think you will be amazed how people will respond and try to help (this will not work well if you're evil). Also, start with the mindset and possibly the intention that you'll con die. It is what it is, we all go through that curve. You'll learn along the way.