I was in the same position with my first 30 or so chars. What
really changed it for me was when I made a goodie and joined
Fortress. Sure they get bashed a lot for having noobs all over
the place (like me) but they are also very VERY helpful when
it comes to showing you stuff. And not just running all over
the place so that you don't register it but they take their
time, letting you take it in your own time so that you
remember. At least that was the way for me.