I was the squire there (Cryxel, arial warrior), and I did think Nohko was pretty snippy about the whole thing. From my perspective, it felt like Ovonne was just lending advice because as you said you had tried 3x with the tiger claw. I also felt Ovonne giving that advice as a more senior member (in RP) of the Fortress was in character.

That said, I don't think it's really a big deal at all - Nohko helped Cryxel multiple times. I didn't and don't think it was a huge thing to get hung up on, and I didn't have a bad interaction, or witnessed one, with Nohko other than that brief time.

I'm a new player compared to the rest of you, so take anything I say with a big boulder of salt, of course.