Your descriptions fits mostly for anti-paladin class. But its quite hard to play, it requires good knowledge of world and wands/sleeks etc. So you will suck. Either know this or pick something else.

Goodie orderly conjurer. Best tank in the game, not really gear dependant, hard to kill, lots of friends since you are a goodie.

Defense/offense shifter. Very good tank, simple class, quite hard to kill unless you got surprised completely. Again I suggest goodie or neutral to get more help.

Assassin or ranger from melee classes. Decent in melee. Can hide. Can heal themselves.

Shaman or paladin. Are not dependant on preps. Hard to kill.