Try a bard, for the reasons suggested below. You will be useful to pretty much everyone in some regard. Gear is not terribly important, and you will likely be dragged along to some cool places with other people to help them get gear when you hero.

Ragers won't try to kill you, in fact, they'll likely want to have your babies. You can do some damage, some maledictions, some damage reduction, some healing, and you get lore at 100%.

Most importantly, you seem to have a solid grasp at roleplaying as one of your strong points. You like to do this and you can write roles. Just forget: bards don't just have to be musicians. They can be historians, writers, painters, sculptors, weavers, riddlemasters, and a whole host of other things as well.