My wife now pretty much doesn't get too crazy about it, but there were times when we would go through periods just like you speak of. Insane fights that would end up in ridiculous ultimatums.

Now it's dwindled down to the occasional.

"Do you have to do THAT, now?!"

or

"Can you NOT do that, Tonight?!?"

Sometimes I oblige, sometimes I don't. In fact, just now I got a, "What are you doing?" To which I answered, "Answering a Post".

It's my hobby. She doesn't have a hobby. Sometimes it's hard, sometimes it's not. I think any time you devote time and effort to something that's NOT your s/o...depending on your s/o it can be a big or small issue.

I think they either get over it, or they don't. And if they don't...it's up to you how to deal with it. But don't ever feel bad or dirty about this hobby because as you said..it's a damn sight better than a lot of diversions out there.

Corrlaan followers are NICE. With a capital NICE!