It seems like you have an issue (getting owned at low levels) and have been presented with a ton of different potential solutions, all of which you have dismissed for various reasons. :P

Everyone wants people to stick around but c'mon man if you don't want to be a punching bag you have to take some of the initiative too! Or just be a punching bag and roll with it - I totally disagree with what you said regarding people not respecting awful PKers, seems like tons of Heralds and Fortress characters who are objectively terrible at PK end up living long, well respected lives, getting leader, progressing through religions, doing tons of area explore stuff, and all in all making a lasting impact on the game.