Method A: "You have X. How can I get X for myself?"
Method B: "You have X. Can I have it?"

1) Players will respond better to A than B. It shows that you're trying to learn how to fend for yourself, and that you're willing to do the involved legwork instead of inflicting it on your benefactor.

2) A is better for you anyway. With B, you can be out of luck once you get killed, disarmed, pilfered, or a host of other things. With A, that's only a minor setback, likely costing you a minute or two the next time you're in that neck of the woods.

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